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The Relationship Reset™
Full Course

The Complete

Reset.

Four phases. Seventeen videos. Six to seven hours of work that goes from stopping the bleeding all the way to closing the distance.

Not couples therapy. Architecture. A system built specifically for how the ADHD brain works — and doesn't work — inside a relationship.

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What you already know

You've tried everything.
Nothing sticks.

You've had the same argument more times than you can count. You've read the books, suggested the therapy, adjusted the way you bring things up. You've been patient. You've been direct. You've tried calm.

And it ends the same way.

The non-ADHD partner is carrying everything and starting to wonder if they're asking for too much. The ADHD partner is ashamed, overwhelmed, and terrified of becoming the person their partner needs them to stop being.

Both of you are telling the truth. Both of you are in pain. Neither of you has been given the right framework for what's actually happening.

Does this sound familiar?

— You've become the project manager of this house. Without agreeing to it.
— The same fight keeps happening. Dishes. Money. The kids. Forgetting.
— Physical closeness has quietly disappeared. You can't pinpoint when.
— One of you feels like they can never do enough. The other like they're asking for too much.
— You've stopped bringing things up. The silence feels safer than the fight.
— You love each other. You're just not sure love is enough anymore.

The 4-Phase Framework

Built for how the
ADHD brain actually works.

Most relationship frameworks assume both partners have the same executive function, the same working memory, the same emotional regulation. This one doesn't.

Phase 1 — Break The Cycle

Phase 1

Break The Cycle

01

De-escalation first. Before you can rebuild anything you need to stop the active damage. Phase 1 gives both partners the tools to interrupt the cycle — immediately, practically, tonight.

You'll have

→The Pause Protocol — word for word
→A shared escalation signal system
→The Daily 10 — 10 minutes that rebuilds contact
→7-day implementation plan + workbook
5 videos · ~2 hrs Also in The Mental Load Reset™
Phase 2 — The Fight Beneath The Fight

Phase 2

The Fight Beneath The Fight

02

Stop fighting about the dishes. Start understanding what the dishes are actually about. Every recurring argument has a surface fight and a fight beneath it — about trust, worth, and being enough. Phase 2 maps both layers.

You'll have

→A map of your actual recurring fight patterns
→Full understanding of RSD and how it hijacks conversations
→New conversation frameworks that reach the real issue
→Phase 2 workbook
4 videos · ~1.5 hrs Full course only
Phase 3 — Share The Mental Load

Phase 3

Share The Mental Load

03

The mental load is not a mood. It's a structural problem with a structural solution. Phase 3 addresses what happens when one brain can track complex parallel systems and the other genuinely cannot — without both people being made to feel like failures.

You'll have

→The Rebalance Protocol — built for ADHD brains
→Ownership vs delegation — clear, unambiguous responsibility
→How to sustain the system when ADHD pushes back
→Phase 3 workbook
4 videos · ~1.5 hrs Full course only
Phase 4 — Close The Distance

Phase 4

Close The Distance

04

The work in Phases 1–3 creates the conditions for something most ADHD couples haven't felt in years: real closeness. Not managed coexistence. Actual connection — emotional, physical, relational. This is where the relationship becomes worth having again.

You'll have

→A reconnection framework for your specific dynamic
→Why intimacy disappeared — and how to rebuild it
→Rebuilding trust after years of imbalance
→Phase 4 workbook + full course outro
4 videos + outro · ~1.5 hrs Full course only

Everything inside

17 Videos.
Nothing held back.

Every video is direct, structured, and built for a couple who is exhausted and doesn't have time for filler. No motivational padding. No generic relationship content. Just the framework, clearly explained, with tools to implement immediately.

Total videos17
Runtime6–7 hrs
Workbooks4
Protocols3
AccessLifetime
ForBoth partners

Phase 1 — Break The Cycle

01Introduction — What Is This And Why Does It Matter12 min
02The Pause Protocol — Word For Word18 min
03Escalation Signal Mapping22 min
04The Daily 10 — Building Contact Back In16 min
05Phase 1 Implementation — Your 7-Day Plan20 min

Phase 2 — The Fight Beneath The Fight

06The Fight Beneath The Fight — What's Really Happening20 min
07Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria — The Full Picture25 min
08Decoding Your Recurring Arguments18 min
09Building New Conversations22 min

Phase 3 — Share The Mental Load

10The Mental Load — Why It's So Unbalanced20 min
11The Rebalance Protocol — Practical System28 min
12Ownership vs Delegation — The Key Distinction18 min
13Sustaining The System When ADHD Pushes Back22 min

Phase 4 — Close The Distance

14Close The Distance — What Reconnection Looks Like22 min
15Touch, Intimacy and Why It Went Away20 min
16Rebuilding Trust After Years of Imbalance25 min
17Outro — What Happens Now15 min

The honest comparison

How it stacks up.

Relationship Reset™
Couples Therapy
Cost
$397 once
$150–300/hr ongoing
ADHD-specific
Built for it
Rarely
Start tonight
Yes
Weeks to get in
Addresses executive function
Central to everything
Often not
Both partners
Designed for both
Depends on therapist
Practical tools from day one
Yes
Varies widely
Lifetime access
Yes
No

This course is not a replacement for professional mental health support. It complements therapy with neuro-informed tools.

Sol — Founder of Calm From Chaos

Who built this

Sol.

Psychology candidate. Relationship coach. Someone who has sat with ADHD couples at the exact moment where one partner is done and the other doesn't understand why.

The Relationship Reset wasn't built from theory. It was built from watching the same pattern repeat — in session after session — and watching it reverse the moment both partners finally understood what was actually happening.

Both of your experiences are real. Both of you deserve to be understood. This framework was built for exactly that.

4
Phases
17
Videos
6–7
Hours
30
Day Guarantee

What couples say

"We'd been to three different therapists. None of them understood ADHD the way this does. The Pause Protocol alone changed the way we fight — which means we fight about a tenth as often."

Non-ADHD partner

Together 8 years

"For the first time I didn't feel like the problem. I felt like someone had finally explained my brain in a way I could work with. My partner watched it with me and said 'I had no idea.'"

ADHD partner

Dating 3 years

"I finally understood why reminding never worked. Not just intellectually — I actually got it. And that understanding changed how I felt about the whole relationship."

Non-ADHD partner

Married 5 years

This is for you if

✓You're in a relationship where one or both partners have ADHD — diagnosed or not
✓You've had the same fight more times than you can count and it never gets resolved
✓One of you is exhausted. The other is ashamed. Both of you are stuck.
✓You've tried therapy but found it too generic to help with the ADHD dynamic
✓You want tools you can start using tonight — not in three months
✓You're not ready to give up. But something has to actually change.

This is not for you if

✗You're looking for someone to tell you who's right and who's wrong
✗Only one partner is willing to engage — this requires both
✗Your relationship involves active abuse or safety concerns — please seek professional support
✗You've already decided the relationship is over

Not sure yet?

The Mental Load Reset™ masterclass is $97 and covers one tool from each of the 4 phases. If you upgrade within 30 days your $97 is credited — you pay $300, not $397.

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30-Day Guarantee

The guarantee

If it doesn't work, you don't pay.

Work through the course for 30 days. Use the protocols. Complete the workbooks. Apply the frameworks to your actual relationship.

If you don't see a measurable change in how you communicate and how you feel about each other — email us. Full refund. No questions, no hoops, no hard feelings.

The only requirement is that you actually use it. The guarantee doesn't cover people who purchased and never opened the course.

Questions

FAQ.

Does my ADHD partner need to be diagnosed?+
No. The framework works based on patterns and dynamics in the relationship — not a formal diagnosis. Many couples who go through this have never had a formal assessment. If the dynamic resonates, the tools will work.
Do both partners need to do it together?+
The course is designed for both partners to work through — but it's not required to start simultaneously. Many non-ADHD partners begin alone and bring their partner in once the framework starts making sense of things. Both sides of the dynamic are addressed throughout.
We've already tried therapy. How is this different?+
Traditional therapy focuses on communication and emotional processing. The Relationship Reset addresses structural factors — executive function gaps, emotional dysregulation, and system breakdowns that generic therapy often misses or doesn't know how to approach. It complements therapy with architecture that makes insights actually implementable.
What if my partner won't engage?+
Resistance usually comes from shame, not disinterest. The framework is designed to reduce defensive reactivity by externalising the problem — it's not about who's right, it's about what the dynamic is doing to both of you. Many ADHD partners find genuine relief in finally having their experience named and structured. Start with the masterclass — the tools are low-threat and often become the entry point.
How long until we see results?+
The Phase 1 tools typically reduce conflict escalation within the first week. Structural changes emerge through Phase 3 over 4–8 weeks. Most couples notice a measurable shift in conflict frequency and emotional safety within the first 30 days. The full reset — all four phases — is designed as a 8–12 week process, though you move at your own pace.
I already bought the masterclass. How do I upgrade?+
Your $97 is fully credited toward the full course. You pay $300, not $397. Use the upgrade link in your masterclass confirmation email, or click the upgrade link below the main enrol button on this page.
Is this a subscription?+
No. One payment. Lifetime access. No recurring charges, no membership fees, no upsells inside the course.
What format is the course in?+
Video-based — each lesson is a direct, structured session with supporting workbooks and downloadable protocols. All online, accessible from any device. No live sessions required. Work through it at your own pace.

Both of you are telling the truth.

This is where

it changes.

The reason your relationship is hard is not because one of you is the problem. It's because ADHD relationships have a specific dynamic that nobody told either of you about. Once you understand it — it becomes workable. And workable is where everything starts.

The Relationship Reset™ — Full Course

→17 videos · 6–7 hours
→All 4 phases
→4 workbooks included
→Lifetime access
→30-day guarantee
→Both partners
$397 $497 Until April 20
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